I’ll preface this by saying that I am no authority on the role that I am about to take, but this is about my hopes, my dreams, my prayers to be what I discuss. After October 15th at 3:00 PM (I just checked the time of the wedding. No seriously, I did.) I will not be just Scott; I will be Scott, the husband. Legally it’s a small change with profound repercussions. I do not wish to discuss what the law says I am because that is simple and far easier than explaining what God commands of that position. It is quite terrifying frankly.
I have served as a surrogate to my family in the sense that Bethany and I are unwed and yet I did all of the things a husband and father, should be doing in the eyes of the world without Christ. Part of repentance is admitting fault and then asking for forgiveness. We certainly did not take the traditional Christian road to get where we are. I had been out of church for fifteen years or more; she had recently found her faith. We met, things clicked, we dated and spent a lot of time together, and then eventually I moved in because we would be better off together financially than we would apart. Simple economics is not the sole reason but one of many.
I clearly liked her, I mean look I kept notes;
Aside from being a bit creepy, it was my genuine desire to know more about this woman and to understand her more than I had ever wanted to with any other woman in my life.
All of that said I desperately want to be what God requires, what she needs, what the children need. There will be failures and trying times but that is why God will be and is the center strand of our three (Ecclesiastes 4:12). God has given us instructions for our positions as husbands and leaders, in fact, the entire fifth chapter of Ephesians (Eph 5:1-33) is a call to be imitators of God. To treat our wives as Christ did the church. In it’s most basic explanation, we should be ready to sacrifice our lives for her.
The goal of our marriage? Colossians 3:12-19
I pray God gives me the knowledge to honor Him, to love and protect her, to be compassionate and understanding with our children. As I learn and grow in my new role I plan on sharing it here.